A woman doesn’t always want to have crazy sex in adventurous places and outrageous positions, although most women wouldn’t say no every once in a while. Sometimes all a woman wants is to feel in charge in the bedroom, and there’s no easier way than trying out new and different girl on top positions.

Starting simply with the “Cow Girl”, your partner is on top, facing you. This allows a deep penetration and also clitoral stimulation; you can also further arouse your partner by gently touching her clitoris either with your hand or her vibrator. Many women find that this is the only position in which they find it possible to reach their climax, making it very popular with the fairer sex.

This position can easily be modified to the “Reverse Cow Girl”, where your partner faces the opposite direction. The man can control the woman’s movements by gently guiding her hips with his hands, or he can lie back and let her call all the shots. This position can be less intimate as you are not facing one another, though it can allow for a much deeper penetration, especially if your partner leans forward to put her head between your knees.

If you prefer more intimacy during sex, why not try the “Lap Dance”? Ask your partner to start off by giving you a strip tease and lap dance while you’re sat up straight on a chair. She can straddle your lap and allow you to enter, and then she can control the pace by slowly moving her hips. This position can progress if she wraps her legs around your torso, or turns around to face away from you, giving an even deeper penetration. This position can also be recreated in your bed by leaning right up against the headboard.

Lastly, the “Squat” may not be the most flattering position for her, but it gives her the most control of her orgasm. This works similarly to the “Cow Girl”, though she controls entry. She lowers herself towards you with her feet flat on the bed either side of your body. Using her thighs she moves herself on top of you completely at her own pace, and you have absolutely no control, this can be incredibly arousing for you both. Let her bring herself to climax as you lie back and enjoy the view.

It shouldn’t be a shocking revelation that women desire and appreciate your effort to communicate with them, but it may be a shock that this does include talking about sex. The best way to move your sex life forward is to begin by talking. Ask her what she wants and likes; begin by sharing your own fantasies to encourage her to do the same. If you find it difficult to approach the subject or start a conversation, it can be much easier to physically show each other what you want.

Another easy way to stir things up in the bedroom is by introducing sex toys. There are huge ranges of different kinds of toys available, so it should be easy to find something that excites you and your partner. Light bondage in the form of fluffy handcuffs or a spanking paddle can be a good starting point, which can help you to discover what you and your partner enjoy and allow you to progress onto something a bit more wild.

When you’re both ready to try something slightly more adventurous, why not ask your partner to introduce you to her vibrator? She can show you what she likes when she’s alone and you can try out new things together. Remember, vibrators aren’t just designed for women; once you know what you both enjoy, go shopping together for your perfect toy. If you’re feeling reluctant to walk through your local town centre and awkwardly ask a shop assistant for advice on what to buy, there are a number of great online shops where you can browse together for as long as you want to find your perfect cock ring, butt plug or dildo.

Adventure sex is sex outside or in a public place, which is perfect for stepping up your sex life if you love the thrill of possibly getting caught or the possibility of being seen. If you’re shy start small, try having sex in different rooms of your house, for example on the sofa or in the shower. This could then progress to getting frisky in your car before you’re ready to do it in public. Do be careful and aware of your surroundings though, always stay safe and also be aware that heavy petting in public can get you into trouble if you’re spotted by a police officer; but maybe that’s part of the thrill.