Oral sex is a great source of pleasure for most men and women, but it can also be very awkward and disappointing. The problem is, nobody wants to tell their partner they’re doing it wrong. This is the first mistake. Everybody is different, so what may have been great with a previous partner, could just feel clumsy and uncomfortable with your current partner. This is why communication is so important to have the best oral sex of your life.

Before you can both know what you like, you first need to know what you don’t like, so time to experiment! Take it in turns to blindfold another and use indicators “hot” and “cold” to let each other know what you do and don’t like. Stimulate different areas using your tongue in different ways with different amounts of pressure; also let them guide you with their hands to show you what they want you to do.

Also, try out different positions to discover how you both work well together. We all know and love the 69, but it can get boring after a while. Experiment with variations of this popular position, move around the bed to experience new angles. With the woman’s head resting off the edge of the bed, her throat opened up for more depth and your position is nearer the top of her vagina for clitoral stimulation. Alternatively, if you are both lay on your side, you can each direct your partner easily to the areas you want them to reach.

It can be really fun to take it in turns to give and receive oral sex; this can become a cheeky game to race to the finish line. A gentleman always goes first, ask your partner to squat over your face, allowing her to control the movements using her hips. When it’s your turn, sit on the edge of the bed, with your knees slightly apart to allow her torso to sit between your knees as she kneels in front of you. You can control her movements by holding her hair, don’t be afraid to gently pull; though don’t force any actions, you should know her limits.

The most important part of giving and receiving oral sex is to make sure you both feel comfortable. Especially for women, orgasm can only be achieved when you feel completely comfortable.

It shouldn’t be a shocking revelation that women desire and appreciate your effort to communicate with them, but it may be a shock that this does include talking about sex. The best way to move your sex life forward is to begin by talking. Ask her what she wants and likes; begin by sharing your own fantasies to encourage her to do the same. If you find it difficult to approach the subject or start a conversation, it can be much easier to physically show each other what you want.

Another easy way to stir things up in the bedroom is by introducing sex toys. There are huge ranges of different kinds of toys available, so it should be easy to find something that excites you and your partner. Light bondage in the form of fluffy handcuffs or a spanking paddle can be a good starting point, which can help you to discover what you and your partner enjoy and allow you to progress onto something a bit more wild.

When you’re both ready to try something slightly more adventurous, why not ask your partner to introduce you to her vibrator? She can show you what she likes when she’s alone and you can try out new things together. Remember, vibrators aren’t just designed for women; once you know what you both enjoy, go shopping together for your perfect toy. If you’re feeling reluctant to walk through your local town centre and awkwardly ask a shop assistant for advice on what to buy, there are a number of great online shops where you can browse together for as long as you want to find your perfect cock ring, butt plug or dildo.

Adventure sex is sex outside or in a public place, which is perfect for stepping up your sex life if you love the thrill of possibly getting caught or the possibility of being seen. If you’re shy start small, try having sex in different rooms of your house, for example on the sofa or in the shower. This could then progress to getting frisky in your car before you’re ready to do it in public. Do be careful and aware of your surroundings though, always stay safe and also be aware that heavy petting in public can get you into trouble if you’re spotted by a police officer; but maybe that’s part of the thrill.

The female orgasm is often thought to be a myth, a story of legend or a fantastic fictitious invention designed to tease and deceive us. The female orgasm is not a myth; you just need to know where to find it. First things first, there is no secret formula to produce results every time or which can be applied to every woman; though there are a number of ways you can help her achieve her peak.

You need to make sure your partner is completely comfortable; it’s essential for a woman to feel relaxed before she can fully be “in the moment”. Set the mood in your bedroom, and let her set the pace during foreplay. Rushing straight into having sex before she’s properly “warmed up” is a sure fire way to leave her disappointed.

Secondly, you need to know where and how to stimulate your partner to guide her along. Most women can achieve orgasm most easily through a combination of clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration. There are eight thousand nerve endings in the clitoris, twice as many as can be found in your own intimate area, so this is an area not to be ignored. During foreplay, the clitoris can receive even more intense contact by gently lifting the clitoral hood, for extremely concentrated pleasure.

It is important to remember to be gentle with your partner, start slowly and softly and let her set the pace. Especially when in direct contact with the clitoris, don’t be too heavy handed when stroking, fondling and caressing her intimate area, or you’ll completely destroy the mood and you can even cause your partner slight pain or irritation. If your partner is ready for you to speed things up, let her take the lead and show you how she likes it. Every woman likes to feel in control, and if she can increase the pace and slow things down in her own time, she’s sure to find her spot quicker than you’d think.

It’s also important to know that your partner isn’t only aroused by contact with her vagina. There are erogenous zones all over the female body, including behind her ears, her thighs and knees and her collarbones and neck. Ask your partner where she likes to be kissed and stroked and target these areas during intercourse to be sure to help her on her way.