It shouldn’t be a shocking revelation that women desire and appreciate your effort to communicate with them, but it may be a shock that this does include talking about sex. The best way to move your sex life forward is to begin by talking. Ask her what she wants and likes; begin by sharing your own fantasies to encourage her to do the same. If you find it difficult to approach the subject or start a conversation, it can be much easier to physically show each other what you want.

Another easy way to stir things up in the bedroom is by introducing sex toys. There are huge ranges of different kinds of toys available, so it should be easy to find something that excites you and your partner. Light bondage in the form of fluffy handcuffs or a spanking paddle can be a good starting point, which can help you to discover what you and your partner enjoy and allow you to progress onto something a bit more wild.

When you’re both ready to try something slightly more adventurous, why not ask your partner to introduce you to her vibrator? She can show you what she likes when she’s alone and you can try out new things together. Remember, vibrators aren’t just designed for women; once you know what you both enjoy, go shopping together for your perfect toy. If you’re feeling reluctant to walk through your local town centre and awkwardly ask a shop assistant for advice on what to buy, there are a number of great online shops where you can browse together for as long as you want to find your perfect cock ring, butt plug or dildo.

Adventure sex is sex outside or in a public place, which is perfect for stepping up your sex life if you love the thrill of possibly getting caught or the possibility of being seen. If you’re shy start small, try having sex in different rooms of your house, for example on the sofa or in the shower. This could then progress to getting frisky in your car before you’re ready to do it in public. Do be careful and aware of your surroundings though, always stay safe and also be aware that heavy petting in public can get you into trouble if you’re spotted by a police officer; but maybe that’s part of the thrill.